Here are two more excerpts from my latest book, Simple Realities (The pathway to happiness and success), which is now available at and on Kindle.


          David and I were partners, but our personalities couldn’t have been more different.We had been to a meeting with a difficult client and David had to smooth things over after I’d annoyed the client by calling a spade a spade. As we were walking back to our office he said to me, “You know, Lyman, I wish you were a little more like me and I was a little more like you.” “I don’t,” I replied, “because if that were the case neither one of us would be worth a damn.”

            Personality is to a person what perfume is to a flower; it’s distinctively theirs.

            Personality is something you have until you start depending on it.

            Personality can open doors, but only character can keep them open.

            There’s sometimes a fine line between charisma and manipulation.



           Don was another partner in the firm and, at the time, I was still a lowly new recruit when, angry about some real or imagined sleight, I stormed into his office and tossed a hard-backed file on his desk with much more force than I intended, sweeping every single item, including the document he was working on, into a pile on the floor. Don looked up and calmly asked, “Is something wrong?”

             Poise makes you a master of any situation.

             Poise can be developed a little at a time.

             Poise is developed by never talking or acting without thinking.

             We’re all elegant in our element.

             How you handle a situation can be more important than the situation itself.

             You can’t be poised and angry at the same time.



MARRIAGE and Promises